Love itself is a selfish feeling that leads to selfless behavior and produces unselfish
Good morning to all my admitted cheaters and those still in denial!
Today's topic is about love...and the misconceptions we all have surrounding that disease of a feeling.
So let's cut right to it and stop the madness - LOVE IS SELFISH. Period.
I mean think about it, and marinate on the header above. Yeah, sure the expression of love is filled with never-ending moments of
showing appreciation, making one feel special, keeping the one you're with happy. But when you really dig deep...love is the opposite of SELFLESS.
Love is possessive, and jealous. Love makes you want that person all to yourself, love makes you want to be the only one that person wants & needs in life. Love is refusing to share or give up that person that makes you happy. Love is satisfying that sexual hunger, that craving you have for the person you can't get off your mind - that one you can't get enough of. You can't be content with just being in that person's life casually....when you truly love someone, you want that person with you & only you for the rest of your days on Earth - you want that person to seek love from no one else. You want that person to love you as much as you love them, if not more, even.
How can that be selfless?
Aren't you only thinking about yourself...and what makes you happy???
If not, you sure the fuck better take a moment &
reevaluate your bond.
Your happiness, well-being, and satisfaction
all still matter in a partner relationship - you don't give these things up for the sake of love. There's an
unwritten rule when it comes to loving & giving yourself to another - the effort has to be mutual. It's
the impression that the other person's heart belongs to you just the same - and while your love for them is based on the way they make you feel,
your commitment to continue spreading that love comes at a cost. We all throw the idea of unconditional love around,
but no such thing exists in a partnership - you'll give that person the world & bend over backwards to make them
feel as complete as they make you, but on one condition. Their loyalty & fidelity must be reserved for
That's what made you let your guard down...and tear down that wall you've built around
your heart to protect yourself from
getting hurt in the first place. That fulfillment of your gratification causes a natural, reflex-like reaction to want
to return that favor - and it starts to become less about self....now that self is taken care of. Your wants &
needs are satisfied, and now the focus has shifted.
Love is bliss....and bliss is not selfless. Bliss is perfect happiness - where everything in your world moves & flows just the way you want it.
Everything in your world. Just how you want it. You feel alive. Life doesn't seem as hard for you anymore, and now you've subconsciously entered a state of
showing appreciation toward the source of your harmony. The 2 of you are now seemingly the perfect team - with the
type of chemistry that only gets stronger the more you do your part. You find yourself over-doing it at times even - yet you remain compelled to outdo
yourself with each opportunity. That's the trance that bliss puts you in. That's a powerful ass trance...and one of
the best feelings in the world.
Love is that powerful. It's that one dangerous emotion that can make you switch up. You start off seeking another to satisfy your every need...and once you find that one for
you, you end up becoming
your most selfless version of self.
But it's still about you. Never forget or lose sight of the fact that it starts with loving yourself. It's always about you...even when it's about them.
It's really the only way you'll love another without limits. This is #SCIENCE.
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