Love is SELFISH....

Love itself is a selfish feeling that leads to selfless behavior and produces unselfish results....





Good morning to all my admitted cheaters and those still in denial!



Today's topic is about love...and the misconceptions we all have surrounding that disease of a feeling.


So let's cut right to it and stop the madness - LOVE IS SELFISH. Period. 


I mean think about it, and marinate on the header above. Yeah, sure the expression of love is filled with never-ending moments of showing appreciation, making one feel special, keeping the one you're with happy. But when you really dig is the opposite of SELFLESS.


Love is possessive, and jealous. Love makes you want that person all to yourself, love makes you want to be the only one that person wants & needs in life. Love is refusing to share or give up that person that makes you happy. Love is satisfying that sexual hunger, that craving you have for the person you can't get off your mind - that one you can't get enough of. You can't be content with just being in that person's life casually....when you truly love someone, you want that person with you & only you for the rest of your days on Earth - you want that person to seek love from no one else. You want that person to love you as much as you love them, if not more, even. 


How can that be selfless?


Aren't you only thinking about yourself...and what makes you happy???


If not, you sure the fuck better take a moment & reevaluate your bond.


 Your happiness, well-being, and satisfaction all still matter in a partner relationship - you don't give these things up for the sake of love. There's an unwritten rule when it comes to loving & giving yourself to another - the effort has to be mutual. It's the impression that the other person's heart belongs to you just the same - and while your love for them is based on the way they make you feel, your commitment to continue spreading that love comes at a cost. We all throw the idea of unconditional love around, but no such thing exists in a partnership - you'll give that person the world & bend over backwards to make them feel as complete as they make you, but on one condition. Their loyalty & fidelity must be reserved for you.


That's what made you let your guard down...and tear down that wall you've built around your heart to protect yourself from getting hurt in the first place. That fulfillment of your gratification causes a natural, reflex-like reaction to want to return that favor - and it starts to become less about that self is taken care of. Your wants & needs are satisfied, and now the focus has shifted.


Love is bliss....and bliss is not selfless. Bliss is perfect happiness - where everything in your world moves & flows just the way you want it. Everything in your world. Just how you want it. You feel alive. Life doesn't seem as hard for you anymore, and now you've subconsciously entered a state of showing appreciation toward the source of your harmony. The 2 of you are now seemingly the perfect team - with the type of chemistry that only gets stronger the more you do your part. You find yourself over-doing it at times even - yet you remain compelled to outdo yourself with each opportunity. That's the trance that bliss puts you in. That's a powerful ass trance...and one of the best feelings in the world.


Love is that powerful. It's that one dangerous emotion that can make you switch up. You start off seeking another to satisfy your every need...and once you find that one for you, you end up becoming your most selfless version of self.



 But it's still about you. Never forget or lose sight of the fact that it starts with loving yourself. It's always about you...even when it's about them.


Stay selfish.


It's really the only way you'll love another without limits. This is #SCIENCE.


- HoLLy



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Comments: 10
  • #1

    Misss Amrine (Monday, 30 March 2015 12:53)

    An In That Order!!!

    You speaking the GOSPEL, but can they HEAR YOU!!!

  • #2

    CHEM (Monday, 30 March 2015 13:01)

    Interesting....though I had to read this three times cause it was almost too advanced for me, it makes since.

  • #3

    CHEM (Monday, 30 March 2015 13:03)


  • #4

    Derrick Underwood (Monday, 30 March 2015 13:18)

    Matters of the Heart... When put in plain English, Selfless becomes partners with Selfish. But, with a more determined Smile! #boom!

  • #5

    Machon Draper (Monday, 30 March 2015 13:32)

    At first I was speechless but now I'm in deep thought. This is on a different level, a level that I'm happy to be on.

  • #6

    Martine (Monday, 30 March 2015 13:46)

    Well smack me twice, and roll me in baby powder. You better say that shit!!

  • #7

    Foxdemona (Monday, 30 March 2015 13:49)

    Carpe diem as the Latins would say "Seize the Day". This has some truth within the art of "love and romance" as well. Most individuals desire to seize the moment for what it is or better yet, for what it offers them. I for one know myself, and "to thine own self be true" at all times. Yes, I want the guy I am with to "Love/Desire" me more than I do him. Why? Because I am a control freak who has NO wish
    Nor Desire to place myself at a disadvantage within a relationship. Am I somewhat selfish? YES!!!!....and I know this, and people who knows me realize that I can be A BRAT AT TIMES!!!! It is okay to be who you are, as long as you are HONEST and upfront about it. You never of these day I might encounter my metaphysical soul mate (and a harmonious balance will that place).

  • #8

    Foxdemona (Monday, 30 March 2015 14:06)

    *(On the last line, it should be "will *take place). lol sorry about the TYPO hahaha (I was typing too fast.)

  • #9

    kasanova (Monday, 30 March 2015 16:12)

    It can be... you have to work on it.

  • #10

    White Chocolate (Tuesday, 31 March 2015)

    By experience, I agree love can be selfish but I also believe it can be selfless until the trust is broken. I believe selfishness comes into play many times when people have been hurt multiple times. Everyone wants and prays for that kind of selfless love but also get into relationships out of lust or instant gratification and think it can turn into real selfless love. Love in these times are not sincere, nor patient, or all the things the Bible speaks because the world has construed it to be something else than what it is really is meant to be. I love your analogy though. Good insight! -Shanna